Author: Terri Apter
Publisher: Ixelles Editions
Entre fusion et confusion, entre haine et passion, entre amour et rejet, la relation mère-enfant est un profond dilemme. Un dilemme entre l’attachement nécessaire pour combler nos besoins affectifs (je veux que tu m’aimes) et le détachement nécessaire pour exister par et pour soi-même (je veux être moi). Bonne ou mauvaise, tout au long de votre vie, la relation que vous entretenez avec votre mère aura une grande influence sur votre personnalité et vos comportements. Terri Apter présente dans ce livre les différents types de mauvaises mères et explique comment s’affranchir d’une relation douloureuse. Mère violente, mère toute-puissante, mère narcissique, mère envieuse ou mère absente Psychologue, spécialiste des relations familiales, l’auteur explique les ravages que peut engendrer une relation affective traumatisante vécue dans l’enfance. Elle décrit les 5 grands profils de mère toxique afin que chacun puisse : • comprendre quels sont les ressorts psychologiques d’une mauvaise relation maternelle, • s’extirper de cette relation de souffrance, sans haine et sans culpabilité, • éviter de reproduire avec ses propres enfants, ce qu’il ou elle a vécu ou vit encore avec sa propre mère. L’auteur propose différents questionnements et des stratégies (prise de distance, différenciation, résilience, etc.) pour élucider les comportements excessifs de ces mères qui, pour chaque enfant devenu adulte, a été le tout premier objet d’amour et d’attachement. Comprendre sa relation avec sa mère est nécessaire pour vivre sereinement ! Terri Apter explique que la majeure partie des enfants vivent auprès d’une « suffisamment bonne mère » (la enough good mother décrite par Winicott) et s’épanouissent bon an, mal an, à ses côtés. Mais des études scientifiques montrent aussi qu’une proportion constante de 20% de la population adulte, soit 1 personne sur 5, grandit auprès d’une mère toxique ! Il ne s’agit pas de porter de jugement sur ces mères et de les condamner, mais de mettre en lumière la manipulation dont elles sont capables et le chantage qu’elles s’exercent sur leurs enfants. En refermant ce livre, chaque lecteur doit pouvoir dire à sa mère – au moins virtuellement – « j’ai compris qui tu étais, je vois clair dans tes manœuvres, mais j’ai décidé de maintenir la relation avec toi et de ne plus en souffrir ». A propos de l'auteur Terry Apter est psychologue clinicienne, et professeur au Newnham College (Université de Cambridge). Spécialisée dans les relations familiales, elle a été remarquée pour ses précédents livres sur les relations entre sœurs, avec les belles-mères, etc. Elle intervient comme chroniqueuse dans Psychology Today. Un livre publié par Ixelles éditions Retrouvez-nous sur www.ixelles-editions.com Contactez-nous à l'adresse [email protected]
Mothers Who Can't Love
Author: Susan Forward, Donna Frazier Glynn
Publisher: Harper Collins
With Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters, Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of the smash #1 bestseller Toxic Parents, offers a powerful look at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters—and provides clear, effective techniques for overcoming that painful legacy. In more than 35 years as a therapist, Forward has worked with large numbers of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role-reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect and abuse, these women are plagued by anxiety and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence and difficulties with trust. They doubt their worth, and even their ability to love. Forward examines the Narcissistic Mother, the Competitive Mother, the Overly Enmeshed mother, the Control Freak, Mothers who need Mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse. Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can’t Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of childhood and how to act in their own best interests. Warm and compassionate, Mothers Who Can’t Love offers daughters the emotional support and tools they need to heal themselves and rebuild their confidence and self-respect.
Do you sometimes feel as though you are getting nowhere in your personal agenda? Do problems that you thought resolved seem to keep resurfacing? Perhaps you are simply not using the correct approach. This book by Lise Bourbeau, just as reliable as those before it, demonstrates that all problems of a physical, emotional or mental order come from five important sources of hurt: rejection, abandonment, humiliation, betrayal and injustice. Thanks to the carefully detailed description of these inner wounds, and the masks that you have designed in order to not see or feel them, you will come to identify the true cause of a certain problem in your life. These masks will also give you answers concerning extreme skinniness or obesity. This book will allow you to move along onto the path of recovery which leads to the ultimate desired result: being yourself. Lise Bourbeau, as always, offers you a practical solution at the end of this book in order to turn your day-to-day problems into stepping-stones toward personal growth and to become aware once more that you are a creative GOD.
LES CINQ CLEFS
Author: Frank Hatem
Ces lignes sont évidemment écrites pour ceux qui veulent résister, survivre, et rester libre et en pleine possession de leur esprit, que ce soit sur la Terre ou ailleurs. Et puis les prophéties sont faites pour ne pas se réaliser si on en tient compte. Tous les univers sont toujours possibles, tout dépend où se fixe notre conscience, où s'établit notre but. Mais il ne faut pas se leurrer : changer de rails est difficile pour une locomotive à pleine vitesse. Cela reste cependant possible. S'élever dès à présent pour s'y préparer, c'est suivre les conseils déjà formulés avec les outils proposés : comprendre et enseigner la vraie Connaissance que là où est la conscience, là est l'infinie liberté créatrice de l'Être ; s'appliquer à être mieux incarné, en équilibre émotionnel, et toujours parfaitement présent et positif pour ne pas laisser place à la possession extérieure ; devenir vraiment autonome et même autarcique financièrement et économiquement ; compenser les effets électromagnétiques qu'on veut nous imposer et rééquilibrer son corps ; et enfin, changer d'attitude dans le monde : s'interdire de rester complice des corruptions et de l'exploitation du monde animal, notamment en mangeant de la viande. Tu te changes toi-même, tu changes le monde.
Author: David Levithan
Publisher: Knopf Books for Young Readers
THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING LOVE STORY SOON TO BE A MAJOR MOTION PICTURE! “[A] wise, wildly unique” (Entertainment Weekly) love story from the New York Times bestselling co-author of Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist and Will Grayson, Will Grayson about a teen who wakes up every morning in a different body, living a different life. Every day a different body. Every day a different life. Every day in love with the same girl. There’s never any warning about where it will be or who it will be. A has made peace with that, even established guidelines by which to live: Never get too attached. Avoid being noticed. Do not interfere. It’s all fine until the morning that A wakes up in the body of Justin and meets Justin’s girlfriend, Rhiannon. From that moment, the rules by which A has been living no longer apply. Because finally A has found someone he wants to be with—day in, day out, day after day. With his new novel, David Levithan, bestselling co-author of Will Grayson, Will Grayson, and Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist, has pushed himself to new creative heights. He has written a captivating story that will fascinate readers as they begin to comprehend the complexities of life and love in A’s world, as A and Rhiannon seek to discover if you can truly love someone who is destined to change every day. “A story that is always alluring, oftentimes humorous and much like love itself— splendorous.” —Los Angeles Times
Author: Sarah Blaffer Hrdy
Learn to be Happier. Week by Week. In this week-by-week guided journal, Tal Ben-Shahar offers a full year's worth of exercises to inspire happiness every day. Using the groundbreaking principles of positive psychology that he taught in his wildly popular course at Harvard University and that inspired his worldwide bestseller Happier, Ben-Shahar has designed a series of tools and techniques to enable us all to find more pleasure and meaning in our lives. 52 weeks of new exercises, meditations, and “time-ins” A journal to record your thoughts, feelings, and personal growth Life-changing insights of philosophers, psychologists, artists, writers, scientists, and successful entrepreneurs This is no ordinary self-help book that you read and toss aside. It's a complete, user-driven journal filled with proactive challenges, thoughtprovoking questions, and “time-ins” that allow you to pause and reflect. You can engage in these activities every day to stimulate your creativity, enhance your sense of empowerment, enrich the quality of your life, and, yes, feel Even Happier.
Author: Alexandra Burt
Like Girl on the Train and Gone Girl, Remember Mia is a riveting psychological suspense, exploring what happens when a young mother’s worst nightmare becomes devastatingly real… First I remember the darkness. Then I remember the blood. I don’t know where my daughter is. Estelle Paradise wakes up in a hospital after being found near dead at the bottom of a ravine with a fragmented memory and a vague sense of loss. Then a terrifying reality sets in: her daughter is missing. Days earlier, Estelle discovered her baby’s crib empty in their Brooklyn apartment. There was no sign of a break-in, but all traces of seven-month-old Mia had disappeared. Her diapers, her clothes, her bottles—all gone. Frustrated and unable to explain her daughter’s disappearance, Estelle begins a desperate search. But when the lack of evidence casts doubt on her story, Estelle becomes the number one suspect in the eyes of the police and the media. As hope of reuniting with Mia becomes all she has left, Estelle will do anything to find answers: What has she done to her baby? And what has someone else done to her? From the Trade Paperback edition.
The Fall Guy: A Novel
Author: James Lasdun
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
In this taut psychological thriller, a couple and their houseguest find themselves caught in a deadly web of secrets, obsession, and revenge. It is summer, 2012. Charlie, a wealthy banker with an uneasy conscience, invites his troubled cousin Matthew to visit him and his wife in their idyllic mountaintop house. As the days grow hotter, the friendship between the three begins to reveal its fault lines, and with the arrival of a fourth character, the household finds itself suddenly in the grip of uncontrollable passions. As readers of James Lasdun’s acclaimed fiction can expect, The Fall Guy is a complex moral tale as well as a gripping suspense story, probing questions of guilt and betrayal with ruthless incisiveness. Who is the real victim here? Who is the perpetrator? And who, ultimately, is the fall guy? Darkly vivid, with an atmosphere of erotic danger, The Fall Guy is Lasdun’s most entertaining novel yet.
Was your mother too busy, too tired, or too checked-out to provide you with the nurturing you needed as a child? Men and women who were “undermothered” as children often struggle with intimate relationships, in part because of their unmet need for maternal care. The Emotionally Absent Mother will help you understand what was missing from your childhood, how this relates to your mother’s own history, and how you can fill the “mother gap” by: Examining the past with compassion for yourself and your mother Finding the child inside of you and learning to mother yourself Opening to the archetype of the Good Mother Allowing friends and loved ones to provide support, guidance, and other elements of good mothering that you missed Through reflections, exercises, and clear explanations, psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori helps adult sons and daughters heal the wounds left by mothers who failed to provide the essential ingredients that every child needs. She traces perceived personal “defects” back to mothering deficits, relieving self-blame. And, by teaching today’s undermothered adults to cultivate the mothering they missed, she helps them secure a happier future—for themselves and their children.
Author: Gabriel Cousens, M.D.
Publisher: North Atlantic Books
Conscious Eating has been referred to as the "Bible of Vegetarians," for both beginners and advanced students of health. This classic work in the field of live-food nutrition is an inspirational journey and a manual for life. Included is new information on enzymes, vegetarian nutrition for pregnancy, and an innovative international 14-day menu of gourmet, Kosher, vegetarian, live-food cuisine, plus 150 recipes.
INSTANT NATIONAL BESTSELLER, WITH OVER 3 MILLION COPIES SOLD From the #1 bestselling author of Your Erroneous Zones, a directed and practical book that shows you how to stop being manipulated by others and start taking charge of your own life. Wayne Dyer reveals how we all can prevent ourselves from being victimized by others and begin to operate from a position of power at the center of our own lives. Asserting that we alone are responsible for how much we will be controlled by others, Dyer offers his practical plan for developing new attitudes toward the most common sources of victimization and manipulation, such as family members and authority figures in the workplace. For example, families can be tremendously coercive and demanding, but they can also be an immensely rewarding part of your life. Dyer shows how to cope with the negative side and contribute to the positive. In their working life, many people stay in unfulfilling jobs because they feel constrained by their present experience or because they fear change. Dyer shows that by being enthusiastic and flexible, you can find the work to be happy. Life, Dyer says, is a beautiful thing as long as you hold the strings. Pulling Your Own Strings will give you the dynamic strategies and tools to master your own fate.
The Ancestor Syndrome
Author: Anne Ancelin Schutzenberger
In The Ancestor Syndrome Anne Ancelin Schutzenberger explains and provides clinical examples of her unique psychogenealogical approach to psychotherapy. She shows how, as mere links in a chain of generations, we may have no choice in having the events and traumas experienced by our ancestors visited upon us in our own lifetime. The book includes fascinating case studies and examples of 'genosociograms' (family trees) to illustrate how her clients have conquered seemingly irrational fears, psychological and even physical difficulties by discovering and understanding the parallels between their own life and the lives of their forebears. The theory of 'invisible loyalty' owed to previous generations, which may make us unwittingly re-enact their life events, is discussed in the light of ongoing research into transgenerational therapy. Anne Ancelin Schutzenberger draws on over 20 years of experience as a therapist and analyst and is a well-respected authority, particularly in the field of Group Therapy and Psychodrama. First published as Aie, mes Aieux this fascinating insight into a unique style of clinical work has already sold over 32,000 copies in France and will appeal to anyone working in the psychotherapy profession.
An examination of childhood trauma and its surreptitious, debilitating effects by one of the world's leading psychoanalysts. Never before has world-renowned psychoanalyst Alice Miller examined so persuasively the long-range consequences of childhood abuse on the body. Using the experiences of her patients along with the biographical stories of literary giants such as Virginia Woolf, Franz Kafka, and Marcel Proust, Miller shows how a child's humiliation, impotence, and bottled rage will manifest itself as adult illness—be it cancer, stroke, or other debilitating diseases. Never one to shy away from controversy, Miller urges society as a whole to jettison its belief in the Fourth Commandment and not to extend forgiveness to parents whose tyrannical childrearing methods have resulted in unhappy, and often ruined, adult lives. In this empowering work, writes Rutgers professor Philip Greven, "readers will learn how to confront the overt and covert traumas of their own childhoods with the enlightened guidance of Alice Miller."